You don't judge the client's reality in processing. That is, you aren't going to tell her what you think is right or wrong about what she is doing. You aren't going to tell her what you think that she should be doing, and how you think she should handle her problems.
You ARE going to lead the client in the direction of understanding her own reality better, and knowing what to do to get what she wants in life. You are going to show the way, but she will be doing the walking.
When you are a way show-er it is a good idea to know something about the places one can go to and some good ways of traveling there.
If you yourself have an overall framework for understanding life and you show some of that to the client, you can help her to fill in some of her own detail into overall principles that work in life.
As a facilitator you need to be very specific and precise in terms of your perceptions of the client and the techniques you use with her. You aren't dealing with a general theoretical client, you are dealing with the exact specific person in front of you. You need to do the exact things with her that you think will work. You need to commit to what you do when you do it. If later you find that another approach is more appropriate, then you commit to that. You aren't wavering around in vagueness.
However, when it comes to the subject matter you get the client to look at, and the place we lead her to, then it is a different situation. Here generality suddenly becomes a virtue. You suggest some general area to look at, the client comes up with something specific, you deal with that very specifically, but you lead the client towards a general positive direction. You don't know exactly what the client will offer up to be handled, and you don't try to control that. You don't know exactly what the client will end up doing with her life, and you don't try to control that.
There are certain resources of understanding that, when you have them, you can better help others in a positive direction. They are general enough so that nobody feels judged when they are discussed. They are relatively true enough so that most people will feel more free by using them.
Some of these resources are built into the principles of processing. They are pre-suppositions that make processing work in the first place. For example, the knowledge that the person is cause over her own reality, or that there is a positive intention behind anything, or that once you see what things really are there is no problem with them. The more fluent you are in these, the more swiftly can you make another person realize them in the context of her own situation.
There are many of these workable truths, but actually not all that many once they have been understood. Some of them have been stated as pre-suppositions for transformational processing, others haven't. It is useful for a facilitator to collect high level workable principles. She will naturally do that in her own personal development.
For some people it might be more natural than for others to think in big generalities about life. Some people are more grounded in the actual detail that is right in front of them. Others are more comfortable with big abstract ideas in the first place. A process facilitator needs to be both. She needs to be able to connect everything up to big general universal principles. But she also needs to be very practical and meticulous about detail when dealing with the nuances of the person in front of her.
It is best if the facilitator has subjective intuitive knowledge of basic principles in life. If she lacks that, at least she must be conversant in a workable theory of life and the universe.
If the facilitator knows that desired action can best be accomplished if one feels it emotionally first, and emotions depend on what one basically intends, well, then she can better help the client address the right levels of the issue. If she thought that one just needs to act differently and emotions and intentions are insignificant, then she would have a harder time at it.
The philosophical principles that the facilitator works off of are all things she would want to sooner or later get the client to understand and use by herself. One of our jobs is to provide the client with tools that she can use by herself. That is when the results are really permanent; when the client knows how to produce them by herself, continuously.
A facilitator who is judgmental and who comes from purely mental logic is not going to accomplish this very well. It is not a matter of imposing your idea of right and wrong on the client, it is not a matter of pulling your pet theories over her head. It is not really a matter of what you have studied, or how well you remember what you have learned. It has a lot to do with being in touch with your own inner knowledge of universal law. There is no rote explanation as to how to do that.
You don't have to be an all-knowing ascended master before you can process somebody. If you were, that probably wouldn't be what you would be doing. You don't have to have all the answers yourself. But you do need to know what direction answers are found in so that you can point that way. You will probably learn just as much as your clients by seeing what they actually find.